I was watching tv last week and happened to start watching 'Wife Swap USA'. Now this is not regular progamming for me but this episode caught my eye. For the uninitiated out there the premise behind this show is that two families at polar ends of a spectrum swap spouses for two weeks. For the first week the exchanged spouse has to abide by the family's rules but in the second week they get to impose their rules on the family. In the instance of the show I watched it was a traditional Christian family, father, mother, and 3 boys and a gay family, two father's and two biological daughters.
In the Christian family the father ruled the house. The boys were kept in line by the use of a wooden paddle affectionately known as the 'butt-basher'. The mother did all the cooking and cleaning (as well as worked fulltime as the father at that time was unemployed). The father was emotionally separated from his sons and wife and found it difficult to communicate with them.
This was contrasted with the gay family. No one was better than anyone else. Any problems were discussed together and decisions reached as a family. Everyone helped with chores and cooking the two girls did not even need to be asked. Both father's were working professionals and their daughters felt comfortable talking to them about
anything.
This was quite a thought provoking show for me. In the family typically thought of (at least in Christian circles) as a bastion of Christian example the gay couple were leading the way in how a family should operate. It saddens me that people can live in a family such as that and at the same time be following Jesus. The man is the head of the household in the
same way that Christ is the head of the church. And when Christ came he did not come with a butt-basher.
What angered me more than anything else were the Christian's responses to the gay man. The father called his pastor when he found out that the spouse he was receiving was a gay man. The pastor came over and counselled the father saying that the bible is very clear on the topic of homosexuality, they are like lepers, we are to treat them as if they had the plague (and not in the nuturing sense). The father ended up continuing in the show but did not allow the other guy to sleep under his roof! This disgusts me from a Christian and worse a minister of the Word. If G@d is a G@d of love then this as far from a godly action as I can imagine. People justify this sort of thing by saying "I'm rejecting the sin but still loving them". Bollocks! It looks like that you're rejecting the sin, and despising and loathing the sinner.
While sadly people might use examples such as this to justify their opinions of Christians I still found this episode worth watching. I found it heartening that the mother who went into the gay household used their example to set her family arights. She began to see the family as just other humans rather than those people. At the end of the show she judged them by who they are rather than judging them by what they are.